Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Hamilton, OH, USA
For the retired
Advice to Retired Husbands
> It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it
> becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping
> as when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at
> them. Some are oversensitive, and there's nothing worse than an oversensitive woman.
> My name is Tom. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my
> wife, Mary. When I took "early retirement" last year, it became
> necessary for Mary to get a full-time job along with her part-time
> job, both for extra income and for the health benefits that we needed.
> Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show
> her age. I usually get home from the golf course about the same time she gets home from work.
> Although Mary knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to
> rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't yell at her.
> Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets
> dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at the
> club so eating out is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home cooked
> grub when I hit that door.
> She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it's
> not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after
> dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically reminding Mary several times
> each evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she really
> appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.
> Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example Mary
> will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly
> bills during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em for better or
> worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch
> it out over two or even three days. That way she won't have to rush so
> much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then
> wouldn't hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points.
> When doing simple jobs, Mary seems to think she needs more rest periods.
> She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the
> yard. I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell Mary to fix
> herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just
> sit for a while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she
> may as well make one for me, too.
> I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Mary.
> I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men
> will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows
> better than I how frustrating women get as they grow older. However,
> guys, if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your
> aging wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile.
> After all, we are put on this earth to help each other....
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